Mastering Emotional Intelligence (EQ) – Healthy Self Regard

Emotional Intelligence is the loving facilitator for "how" we do "what" we do.

I’ve now had the privilege of working with thousands of people worldwide to support transformational learning and change through emotional intelligence. Through this work, my thinking has evolved significantly over the past twenty years on how to effectively engage your emotional intelligence for personal and leadership development. 

Over the next few weeks I’ll share some of these insights while specifically referencing the 15 skills and competencies of the EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence. 


Self-regard is accepting and respecting yourself as you are right here and right now. It is not about what you believe you should be in order to get or gain safety, security, approval or love. Recognizing this key and often subtle difference is an essential first step to cultivating healthy self-regard.

Mastery of self-regard is evidenced through unconditional self-love. A love of self that is not confused with or driven by egoic self-interest. A love of self that inspires curiosity and growth, and that wishes to co-create with others and genuinely share. A love of self that is confident and unshaken even when the “world” - that is, people, places and things - would appear to be disagreeing with you and even arguing that you are not enough or incomplete and therefore should be someone different than who you authentically are at the core of your being. 

Individuals I've trained and coached who demonstrate healthy self-regard are invariably more resilient, peaceful, focused and naturally inspire others through their authentic leadership. 

Curious to learn more?  If you are interested in some of the proven research on the benefits of healthy EQ engagement and development, please visit